Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life by Drs. Cloud and Townsend is a Christian/Biblically based book on an essential life skill: setting healthy boundaries. I did not know this book was Biblically based when it was first recommended to me, and though I am still searching for a good secular book I can recommend, this book does an excellent job in educating the reader about what are boundary problems, where they come from, and how to address them. Setting healthy boundaries is a skill that most survivors of trauma, abuse, or controlling environments needs to learn. I plan to do a blog series on boundaries later on but for now here is a cliff notes version of the basic boundary problems:
4 Types of Boundary Problems:
- Can’t Say No – this person is a compliant, people pleaser. …read more
Anger gets a bad rap. In our society we are often taught to “be polite,” just “nod and smile,” or better yet: “don’t be so sensitive” or “you’re overreacting.” The truth is, when we feel anger stirring up inside of us, it is telling us something important and we need to learn to listen to it. Anger is an emotion that motivates us to make changes. Anger warns us when we feel threatened, when things are unjust, when boundaries have been crossed, and more importantly, when our needs haven’t been met.